Who Is Responsible For Our Wrongdoings?
Me: Hey Asher, what should I write about in my article for the temple?
My son, Asher: Something funny!
My son then paused, looked at me and said: Oh wait. But you aren’t funny.
First, this is what I get asking for advice from my pre-teen. Second, I will be sure to write about something not funny today, which should be easy for me, according to Asher.
This week’s portion is Ha’azinu and can be interpreted to be about blessings, our misdeeds, and punishments. (Good thing I don’t have to be funny with this one).
I consider my blessings to be my children, parents, and extended family. My health is a blessing. My friends are a treasured blessing as well. And since I am sharing, I consider re-finding Emanuel in my career a blessing.
My misdeeds are long and without someone buying me a drink or two, I am not about to share them all. Obviously.
Regarding punishment, on this one I am stuck. I do not believe G-d punishes us. I do believe people punish each other and ourselves. Having experienced pain at the hands of others (emotionally, physically) and serving as my worst critic on most days, I do not look at G-d and blame them. It’s us. It is ourselves. It is humans.
Recently, a letter went out from David Rakofsky, Emanuel President, who discussed how it is up to each of us, not the person to our left or right, but us, to help our community. This is similar. We are the ones who can work to stop the pain we inflict on each other and ourselves. Not the person to our right, not the person to the left and not G-d.
Now, we may need help doing this and we should not be afraid to ask for it. It is not a sign of weakness, but rather of strength. So as we sit in this time between Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur and think of our misdeeds, also think of how we can change to enhance our blessings. Do the work of being honest with yourself. If you need help from someone else – from a friend, a therapist, or your community – we are here for you.
A few resources from Jewish Children and Family Services (JCFS) are below in case it is useful to you, or someone who may ask you for help. Making that first call can be the hardest, so if you need help making it ask a family member, a friend, or your community at Emanuel.
May everyone have a safe and happy new year filled with sweetness and personal growth. Personally, I have a whole list of personal growth goals, including, apparently, becoming funny.
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Sarabeth Salzman
Executive Director
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